RE: New TECHWR-L Poll Question

Subject: RE: New TECHWR-L Poll Question
From: "Jane Carnall" <jane -dot- carnall -at- digitalbridges -dot- com>
To: "TECHWR-L" <techwr-l -at- lists -dot- raycomm -dot- com>
Date: Wed, 9 Jan 2002 17:27:02 -0000

> So, as long as they're not
>assaulting each other in the aisles or sniping at each other verbally,
>why do we worry so much about how they get along?

Well, I assumed that WAS the question. I wouldn't say I'm friendly with over
90% of my co-workers: I don't particularly want to see them outside work, go
for drinks or pizza with them at lunchtime, or (probably) keep in touch with
them after they or I have left. If this was the definition of "getting along
with people", then I don't.

But I do try to get along with people *in the workplace*. If someone says
something to me in confidence, I keep the confidence. If I overhear A
sniping at B, I don't run tell B. If it becomes clear that a co-worker has
radically different opinions from me on a non-work subject we both feel
strongly about, I try not to enter into - ahem - discussions with them about
it, regardless of how totally wrong their opinions are. <g> I vent a bit
*here*, and on other mailing lists, but at work I consciously strive to be
nice, polite, kind, and goodtempered (not really me at all, evil cackle),
because on the whole, that's how I'd rather the other people I am compelled
to be with for 8.5+ hours a day behaved. If this be hypocrisy, make the most
of it: it makes for a nicer workplace.

And this isn't the same thing as being a doormat, dammit. It doesn't cost
any more to say No politely. And the only time I worked under a manager who
thought that rule by fear was effective and with a company that believed
company loyalty could be achieved by threats, I left ASAP.

Jane Carnall
The writers all stand around a cauldron chanting and occasionally tossing in
a small rodent.


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