RE: one vs 1

Subject: RE: one vs 1
From: "Leonard C. Porrello" <Leonard -dot- Porrello -at- SoleraTec -dot- com>
To: "Bill Swallow" <techcommdood -at- gmail -dot- com>
Date: Wed, 30 Sep 2009 08:49:43 -0700

My experience leads me to a more nuanced interpretation. I would
differentiate between what people are and what you let them do to you.
Some people are naturally parasitic (i.e., "narcissistic"), and some
people become essentially parasitic as a result of years of long
practice in trying to dominate and control every conversation. In either
case, their "reason for being" is to turn every conversation and
relationship to their advantage. And while, as you suggest, you can
prevent them from feeding off of you, doing so requires ongoing effort
and can make a work environment less than pleasant--especially if they
outrank you. In my experience, these types of people are overrepresented
in marketing and sales. Fortunately, there are also many people in
marketing and sales who are there because they are truly empathetic and
gifted problem solvers.


-----Original Message-----
From: Bill Swallow [mailto:techcommdood -at- gmail -dot- com]
Sent: Wednesday, September 30, 2009 6:28 AM
To: Leonard C. Porrello
Cc: techwr-l -at- lists -dot- techwr-l -dot- com
Subject: Re: one vs 1

In my experience, people are only "parasitic" if you let them be. Set
ground rules, responsibilities and accountabilities and hold everyone
to them and there's no sticking.

On Tue, Sep 29, 2009 at 4:54 PM, Leonard C. Porrello
<Leonard -dot- Porrello -at- soleratec -dot- com> wrote:
> I totally agree, but when dealing with marketing people, one often
> that the symbiosis is parasitic rather than mutalistic. ;-)



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