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Subject:Document Grench From:Lin Farley <Lin_Farley -at- AMAT -dot- COM> Date:Mon, 23 Mar 1998 12:22:31 -0800
I sympathize with this situation.
But I think going around/behind, or over the so-n-so is courting
disaster. The woman is the problem--for you. Talk to her honestly and
sincerely. If the idea of doing that seems preposterous, then take a close
look at your own attitudes and opinions about her and this situation.
When I have been willing (sometimes kicking and screaming ) to get
whatever I had in the way of dealing in a friendly manner with a fellow
worker, the most amazing things have happened. I mean amazing, But this
always required two absolutes: I was honest about how I felt towards
(fill-in-the-blank) and I was honest with (fill-in-the-blank).
When this is done without antagonism, without resentment,and without
fear, then 9 times out of 10, it will be resolved in a way that you can
In my own experience the hardest parts of this prescription were
dealing with my own feelings of RAGE (imagine that?) and being honest with
someone I believed was not disposed to be friendly.
I wish you well.