RE: Coworker who won't take no for an answer

Subject: RE: Coworker who won't take no for an answer
From: "Sean Brierley" <sbrierley -at- Accu-Time -dot- com>
To: <techwr-l -at- lists -dot- techwr-l -dot- com>
Date: Wed, 30 Jul 2008 08:54:45 -0400

I disagree and still believe the first step is for the employee to
clearly and unambiguously decline the offer.

I also see a difference between someone ribbing someone about their kids
and someone making hurtful and pointed statements about their kids. The
information we have about the kids and everything else is useless
without context because I can say you're bad and mean you're good, etc.,
and our language relies on context and our interpersonal relationships
also rely on context.

Furthermore, I also see that each employee is a person with a right to
be their own person and if their actions are disruptive to another
individual, then some interpersonal skillz do have to come into play ...
people have to talk to people under awkward circumstances, imagine that!

I'm not making light of this issue, but it is unreasonable to think that
everyone can be the same clone with the same inherent understanding,
perceptions, motivations as everyone else. And, without that, there will
be uniqueness. And, with that uniqueness comes irritation. There's this
coworker I have who wears a shirt that's a shade of color I don't like
and every time I'm in a meeting with this guy, the shirt distracts me
and interferes with the smooth operation of my work environment in that
meeting -- off with his head!

I do think the original poster is in a difficult situation not of her
making. However, I also believe that through no fault of her own, the
first step has to be a clear, unambiguous, and in-person using talking
discussion in which she tells the irritant to stop irritating.

Sean Brierley
Technical Writer

-----Original Message-----
From: techwr-l-bounces+sbrierley=accu-time -dot- com -at- lists -dot- techwr-l -dot- com
[mailto:techwr-l-bounces+sbrierley=accu-time -dot- com -at- lists -dot- techwr-l -dot- com] On
Behalf Of Gene Kim-Eng
Sent: Tuesday, July 29, 2008 6:29 PM
To: techwr-l -at- lists -dot- techwr-l -dot- com
Subject: Re: Coworker who won't take no for an answer

"Context" is not relevant in a situation of this nature.
It is the perception of the person on the receiving end
of the behavior, especially if it continues after that
person has specifically asked that it stop. Any behavior
that interferes with the smooth operation of a work
environment is unacceptable, whether it is motivated
by a "crush" or just someone's obsession with
evangelizing their leisure time activities to the
uninterested, and it is always a management issue.

ComponentOne Doc-To-Help gives you everything you need to author and
publish quality Help, Web, and print content. Perfect for technical
authors, developers, and policy writers. Download a FREE trial.

True single source, conditional content, PDF export, modular help.
Help & Manual is the most powerful authoring tool for technical
documentation. Boost your productivity!

You are currently subscribed to TECHWR-L as archive -at- web -dot- techwr-l -dot- com -dot-

To unsubscribe send a blank email to
techwr-l-unsubscribe -at- lists -dot- techwr-l -dot- com
or visit

To subscribe, send a blank email to techwr-l-join -at- lists -dot- techwr-l -dot- com

Send administrative questions to admin -at- techwr-l -dot- com -dot- Visit for more resources and info.


Re: Coworker who won't take no for an answer: From: Gene Kim-Eng

Previous by Author: RE: Coworker who won't take no for an answer
Next by Author: RE: Coworker who won't take no for an answer
Previous by Thread: Re: Coworker who won't take no for an answer
Next by Thread: Re: Coworker who won't take no for an answer

What this post helpful? Share it with friends and colleagues:

Sponsored Ads