RE: "Sorry you're not the right fit" - After "all is fine" for 4 weeks

[David Brown <browndavidc -at- hotmail -dot- com>]

Dear Yannia,
 
I give motivational talks to unemployed and underemployed job seekers and the observation that they did you a favor is very accurate.
 
In my talk I frame it as:
 
Be thankful to those who do not help you.
 
Just every time that I’ve seen these types of situations this has been true. 
Things always turn out for the better because of the situation.
 
Change is opportunity.
 
You’ll do fine.
 
Keep on pushing and don’t let this get you down.
 
 
Sincerely,
 
 
Dave> Date: Mon, 24 Nov 2008 10:55:28 -0600> From: pro -dot- techwriter -at- gmail -dot- com> To: sharon -at- anthrobytes -dot- com> Subject: Re: "Sorry you're not the right fit" - After "all is fine" for 4 weeks> CC: techwr-l -at- lists -dot- techwr-l -dot- com> > You give me hope! Thanks for sharing this story. I especially liked the part> about "pulling 20 years of experience out of play." That struck a chord for> me.> PT> > On Mon, Nov 24, 2008 at 9:27 AM, Sharon Burton <sharon -at- anthrobytes -dot- com>wrote:> > > I worked at a place with a really bad fit. I spent 2.5 years trying to fit> > in because the work was interesting and I saw that I could do a lot of> > corporate good.> >> > When I was told that I needed to stop mentioning previous projects I had> > been on that related to this one because it upset people in the room, I> > stopped talking about how I'd solved this issue before and maybe we could> > do> > the same here. Thus, pulling almost 20 years of experience out of play.> >> > I spent 2.5 years trying hard to be a person who "fit" there. I was really> > miserable the entire time. It was as bad as being in my second marriage. I> > felt that who I was as a person was offensive and upsetting to everyone and> > just being in the room annoyed them. 10 hours a day. 5 days a week.> >> > Now I have a job I adore. I was so happy to get out of the bad fit place. I> > couldn't believe how well I was treated at the new job for the first 6> > months. Now I'm used to it but I still appreciate it!> >> > They did you a favor.> >> >> > sharon> >> > Sharon Burton> > 951-369-8590> >> >> > -----Original Message-----> > From: techwr-l-bounces+sharon=anthrobytes -dot- com -at- lists -dot- techwr-l -dot- com> > [mailto:techwr-l-bounces+sharon <techwr-l-bounces%2Bsharon>=> > anthrobytes -dot- com -at- lists -dot- techwr-l -dot- com]On> > Behalf Of Pinkham, Jim> > Sent: Monday, November 24, 2008 6:52 AM> > To: Yannia Vodrovich; techwr-l -at- lists -dot- techwr-l -dot- com> > Subject: RE: "Sorry you're not the right fit" - After "all is fine" for> > 4 weeks> >> >> > Yannia, I think both your response and the advice you're getting are on> > tack.> >> > There are companies that have a certain pathology that even the> > best-intentioned can unwittingly stumble into. Sounds like you found one> > and> > got a quick, merciful escape, without much damage done. Congratulations!> >> > Taking stock on what you could have done differently and seeing if you can> > learn from it is wise. I suspect it was pathology, not punctuality, that> > was> > the real issue here. Nonetheless, another time, you'll know, if you put> > yourself in a similar situation, to dot all the I's and cross all the T's> > until and unless expressly told differently.> >> > It takes more homework, but especially if you're after a longer-term> > commitment, it's wise to get the word on the street about a prospective> > employer before you ever commit. Talk to people in the department, if you> > can. Talk to vendors. Talk to ex-employees. Spend some hang time in the> > local coffee shop near the office -- or wherever employees or those who> > know> > them congregate. What kind of reputation do they have in the community?> > It's> > not bulletproof, but it can tell a great deal, and spare you a lot of> > grief.> >> > Jim> >> > -> >> > ^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^> >> > ComponentOne Doc-To-Help 2009 is your all-in-one authoring and publishing> > solution. Author in Doc-To-Help's XML-based editor, Microsoft Word or> > HTML and publish to the Web, Help systems or printed manuals.> > http://www.doctohelp.com> >> > Help & Manual 5: The complete help authoring tool for individual> > authors and teams. Professional power, intuitive interface. Write> > once, publish to 8 formats. 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